I Want the Program But Not The Feelings
This is a common situation with a nutritional balancing program. Our clients are excited to get well and want to follow their program. However, it brings up their issues in a forceful way that does not feel good.
This is a serious dilemma. In truth, the only way to get well is to uncover and process all that is in the way of health. This often includes old traumas, accidents, and attitudes that block healing. This is exactly what the program brings up.
THE SOLUTION
The only solution, as I tell many clients and practitioners, is to process these feelings and let them go. To process, in this case, means to feel them, embrace them, and transcend them. This is not always easy, but it always works and takes care of them.
The question is one of:
AWARENESS
This is difficult for some clients. Many of our clients cannot acknowledge that they even have the feelings. One reason is that they manifest as physical symptoms, in many cases:
IN THE PAST
In some cases, a person is aware that they have intense feelings. Next, one must understand that the source of the feelings is from the past, and not something in the present. This is difficult for some people.
For example, if one is angry, which is the most common condition, one tends to look around to find the source of the anger in the present. However, if one is retracing, which is the rule during a nutritional balancing program, this is never the reality. In fact, the anger is from the past and is just surfacing now to be processed and released.
A person may not remember the precise incident, or one may carry a fantasy of what occurred, so when the reality surfaces it is hard to change one’s perception of the incident or trauma. For instance, if a parent abandoned a child through divorce, the child may perceive himself or herself as “bad” for having caused the divorce. This is a very common response.
During one’s nutritional balancing program, the truth may surface that in reality one was not bad at all. However, the child may have become extremely angry at the parents. This necessitates a shift in perception. A person who “loves” his parents may not be able to make this shift easily.
WILLINGNESS
A desire to hold on to feelings of resentment, anger and even hatred is quite common!
Bernard Jensen, ND, DC, one of my early teachers, said “Many people are willing to let go of their donuts and soda pop, but will not let go of their fear or their anger.”
Why Not Let Go of Unpleasant Feelings? At first glance, it seems silly that a person would want to hold on to unpleasant feelings. However, this is very common. Here are some reasons for it:
1. If Feels Good! It makes you feel you are superior to the one you hate or are angry with. In other words, it feeds the person’s ego.
2. It is a Source of Energy. This may sound strange, but one can live on the energy of resentment. This is definitely aberrant, but many people live on the energy of anger. It is a real, physical energy that will carry one through the day.
One may marry someone, go to work for someone, or otherwise associate with someone whom one resents. It is backwards, but it gives some people the energy to function.
Giving up this energy can make a person feel so exhausted for a while that it frightens them. After a time, real energy will return, but it may take a few months.
3. Feeling Deserving – the Victim Mentality. Unfortunately, many counselors and psychiatrists tell people that they “deserve” to be angry, depressed or anxious about some trauma or incident from the past. Friends or family members may suggest or reinforce this idea, as well.
4. A Complete Identity. In some cases, the incident has become part of one’s personality. This is a more extreme case of the victim mentality. One may “label” oneself as an alcoholic, a rape victim, child of a violent father, or something else.
This becomes a focus of the person’s life, and letting it go would fundamentally alter the person’s identity and perhaps lifestyle. So it is easier to just hold on to the feelings, even if it means not getting well.
ARE THERE SHORTCUTS?
Yes. The best shortcut is to practice total forgiveness of everyone for everything. I know this sounds drastic to some people, but it is true. It is an ancient teaching found in the holy books of all nations.
Forgiveness is special. For more details, read Forgiving on this website.
WHAT ELSE CAN BE DONE?
You may slow down the pace of the nutritional balancing program by reducing the number of doses of the supplements you take each day. This will delay healing somewhat, but usually reduces the intensity of the feelings.
Another suggestion is to do the Pulling Down Exercise more often, or for longer periods of time.
Another suggestion is to rub the feet more.
An excellent suggestion is to “talk to the feelings”. Put them outside of you, and give them a name. I call them my dragons, for example.
They remind me of the story of the damsel in distress who lives in a chilly castle guarded by a dragon who intimidates anyone who comes around to help her. Her fear and perhaps anger has produced a monster, essentially, that is now her enemy.
The dragon must be slain, or put into retirement, (let go), in order for her to be “saved” by the wonderful knight on a white horse. For more about the symbolism of this story, read The Knight In Shining Armor, on this site.
Other articles about retracing on this website:
Retracing And Healing Reactions
A Personal Retracing Story
Trauma Retracing
Sources: Dr. Larry Wilson
This is a serious dilemma. In truth, the only way to get well is to uncover and process all that is in the way of health. This often includes old traumas, accidents, and attitudes that block healing. This is exactly what the program brings up.
THE SOLUTION
The only solution, as I tell many clients and practitioners, is to process these feelings and let them go. To process, in this case, means to feel them, embrace them, and transcend them. This is not always easy, but it always works and takes care of them.
The question is one of:
- Awareness of the problem.
- Understanding that it is always from the past, not the present.
- A willingness to forgive and let it go completely.
- Many ask if there are there shortcuts to doing this? Let us discuss these in more detail.
AWARENESS
This is difficult for some clients. Many of our clients cannot acknowledge that they even have the feelings. One reason is that they manifest as physical symptoms, in many cases:
- Anxiety can manifest as a pain in the area of the stomach and solar plexus.
- Stress can manifest as a headache.
- Fear can manifest as a shaky feeling.
- Anger can manifest as a shaking in the body, or muscle tightness, or shoulders that will not relax.
- Depression or Fear may manifest as a desire to just stay in bed all day.
IN THE PAST
In some cases, a person is aware that they have intense feelings. Next, one must understand that the source of the feelings is from the past, and not something in the present. This is difficult for some people.
For example, if one is angry, which is the most common condition, one tends to look around to find the source of the anger in the present. However, if one is retracing, which is the rule during a nutritional balancing program, this is never the reality. In fact, the anger is from the past and is just surfacing now to be processed and released.
A person may not remember the precise incident, or one may carry a fantasy of what occurred, so when the reality surfaces it is hard to change one’s perception of the incident or trauma. For instance, if a parent abandoned a child through divorce, the child may perceive himself or herself as “bad” for having caused the divorce. This is a very common response.
During one’s nutritional balancing program, the truth may surface that in reality one was not bad at all. However, the child may have become extremely angry at the parents. This necessitates a shift in perception. A person who “loves” his parents may not be able to make this shift easily.
WILLINGNESS
A desire to hold on to feelings of resentment, anger and even hatred is quite common!
Bernard Jensen, ND, DC, one of my early teachers, said “Many people are willing to let go of their donuts and soda pop, but will not let go of their fear or their anger.”
Why Not Let Go of Unpleasant Feelings? At first glance, it seems silly that a person would want to hold on to unpleasant feelings. However, this is very common. Here are some reasons for it:
1. If Feels Good! It makes you feel you are superior to the one you hate or are angry with. In other words, it feeds the person’s ego.
2. It is a Source of Energy. This may sound strange, but one can live on the energy of resentment. This is definitely aberrant, but many people live on the energy of anger. It is a real, physical energy that will carry one through the day.
One may marry someone, go to work for someone, or otherwise associate with someone whom one resents. It is backwards, but it gives some people the energy to function.
Giving up this energy can make a person feel so exhausted for a while that it frightens them. After a time, real energy will return, but it may take a few months.
3. Feeling Deserving – the Victim Mentality. Unfortunately, many counselors and psychiatrists tell people that they “deserve” to be angry, depressed or anxious about some trauma or incident from the past. Friends or family members may suggest or reinforce this idea, as well.
4. A Complete Identity. In some cases, the incident has become part of one’s personality. This is a more extreme case of the victim mentality. One may “label” oneself as an alcoholic, a rape victim, child of a violent father, or something else.
This becomes a focus of the person’s life, and letting it go would fundamentally alter the person’s identity and perhaps lifestyle. So it is easier to just hold on to the feelings, even if it means not getting well.
ARE THERE SHORTCUTS?
Yes. The best shortcut is to practice total forgiveness of everyone for everything. I know this sounds drastic to some people, but it is true. It is an ancient teaching found in the holy books of all nations.
Forgiveness is special. For more details, read Forgiving on this website.
WHAT ELSE CAN BE DONE?
You may slow down the pace of the nutritional balancing program by reducing the number of doses of the supplements you take each day. This will delay healing somewhat, but usually reduces the intensity of the feelings.
Another suggestion is to do the Pulling Down Exercise more often, or for longer periods of time.
Another suggestion is to rub the feet more.
An excellent suggestion is to “talk to the feelings”. Put them outside of you, and give them a name. I call them my dragons, for example.
They remind me of the story of the damsel in distress who lives in a chilly castle guarded by a dragon who intimidates anyone who comes around to help her. Her fear and perhaps anger has produced a monster, essentially, that is now her enemy.
The dragon must be slain, or put into retirement, (let go), in order for her to be “saved” by the wonderful knight on a white horse. For more about the symbolism of this story, read The Knight In Shining Armor, on this site.
Other articles about retracing on this website:
Retracing And Healing Reactions
A Personal Retracing Story
Trauma Retracing
Sources: Dr. Larry Wilson
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